Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Hope is so Powerful


I was inspired by this story. This week I have needed to have some hope myself and faith to believe God is sovereign over all. I hope this will encourage you as it did me.


A Girl With An Apple
(This is a true story and you can find out more by googling Herman Rosenblat. He was Bar Mitzvahed at age 75)

August 1942. Piotrkow , Poland .

The sky was gloomy that morning as we waited anxiously. All the men, women and children of Piotrkow's Jewish ghetto had been herded into a square.Word had gotten around that we were being moved. My father had only recently died from typhus, which had run rampant through the crowded ghetto. My greatest fear was that our family would be separated.

'Whatever you do,' Isidore, my eldest brother, whispered to me, 'don't tell them your age. Say you're sixteen. 'I was tall for a boy of 11, so I could pull it off. That way I might be deemed valuable as a worker.

An SS man approached me, boots clicking against the cobblestones. He looked me up and down, and then asked my age.'Sixteen,' I said. He directed me to the left, where my three brothers and other healthy young men already stood.My mother was motioned to the right with the other women, children, sick and elderly people.

I whispered to Isidore, 'Why?'He didn't answer.I ran to Mama's side and said I wanted to stay with her.'No, 'she said sternly.'Get away. Don't be a nuisance. Go with your brothers.'
She had never spoken so harshly before. But I understood: She wasprotecting me. She loved me so much that, just this once, she pretended not to. It was the last I ever saw of her.

My brothers and I were transported in a cattle car to Germany. We arrived at the Buchenwald concentration camp one night weeks later and were led into a crowded barrack. The next day, we were issued uniforms and identification numbers.

'Don't call me Herman anymore.' I said to my brothers. 'Call me 94983.'I was put to work in the camp's crematorium, loading the dead into a hand-cranked elevator. I, too, felt dead. Hardened, I had become a number. Soon, my brothers and I were sent to Schlieben, one of Buchenwald 's sub-camps near Berlin .

One morning I thought I heard my mother's voice. 'Son,' she said softly but clearly, I am going to send you an angel. Then I woke up. Just a dream. A beautiful dream.But in this place there could be no angels. There was only work. And hunger. And fear.

A couple of days later, I was walking around the camp, around the barracks, near the barbed-wire fence where the guards could not easily see. I was alone.On the other side of the fence, I spotted someone: a little girl with light, almost luminous curls. She was half-hidden behind a birch tree.

I glanced around to make sure no one saw me. I called to her softly in German. 'Do you have something to eat?' She didn't understand. I inched closer to the fence and repeated the question in Polish. She stepped forward. I was thin and gaunt, with rags wrapped around my feet, but the girl looked unafraid. In her eyes, I saw life. She pulled an apple from her woolen jacket and threw it over the fence.I grabbed the fruit and, as I started to run away, I heard her say faintly, 'I'll see you tomorrow.'

I returned to the same spot by the fence at the same time every day. She was always there with something for me to eat - a hunk of bread or, better yet, an apple.

We didn't dare speak or linger. To be caught would mean death for us both.I didn't know anything about her, just a kind farm girl, except that she understood Polish. What was her name? Why was she risking her life for me? Hope was in such short supply, and this girl on the other side of the fence gave me some, as nourishing in its way as the bread and apples.Nearly seven months later, my brothers and I were crammed into a coal car and shipped to Theresienstadt camp in Czechoslovakia.'Don't return,' I told the girl that day. 'We're leaving.'I turned toward the barracks and didn't look back, didn't even say good-bye to the little girl whose name I'd never learned, the girl with the apples.

We were in Theresienstadt for three months. The war was winding down and Allied forces were closing in, yet my fate seemed sealed.

On May 10, 1945, I was scheduled to die in the gas chamber at 10:00 AM.

In the quiet of dawn, I tried to prepare myself. So many times death seemed ready to claim me, but somehow I'd survived. Now, it was over.

I thought of my parents. At least, I thought, we will be reunited. But at 8 A.M. there was a commotion. I heard shouts, and saw people running every which way through camp. I caught up with my brothers. Russian troops had liberated the camp! The gates swung open. Everyone was running, so I did too. Amazingly, all of my brothers had survived;I'm not sure how. But I knew that the girl with the apples had been the key to my survival. In a place where evil seemed triumphant, one person's goodness had saved my life, had given me hope in a place where there was none.My mother had promised to send me an angel, and the angel had come.

Eventually I made my way to England where I was sponsored by a Jewish charity, put up in a hostel with other boys who had survived the Holocaust and trained in electronics. Then I came to America, where my brother Sam had already moved. I served in the U. S. Army during the Korean War, and returned to New York City after two years.By August 1957 I'd opened my own electronics repair shop. I was starting to settle in. One day, my friend Sid whom I knew from England called me. 'I've got a date. She's got a Polish friend. Let's double date.' A blind date? Nah, that wasn't for me. But Sid kept pestering me, and a few days later we headed up to the Bronx to pick up his date and her friend Roma.

I had to admit, for a blind date this wasn't so bad. Roma was a nurse at a Bronx hospital. She was kind and smart. Beautiful, too, with swirling brown curls and green, almond-shaped eyes that sparkled with life.

The four of us drove out to Coney Island. Roma was easy to talk to, easy to be with. Turned out she was wary of blind dates too!We were both just doing our friends a favor. We took a stroll on the boardwalk, enjoying the salty Atlantic breeze, and then had dinner by the shore. I couldn't remember having a better time. We piled back into Sid's car, Roma and me sharing the backseat.

As European Jews who had survived the war, we were aware that much had been left unsaid between us. She broached the subject, 'Where were you,' she asked softly, 'during the war?' 'The camps,' I said. The terrible memories still vivid, the irreparable loss. I had tried to forget. But you can never forget.She nodded. 'My family was hiding on a farm in Germany, not far from Berlin ,' she told me. 'My father knew a priest, and he got us Aryan papers.'I imagined how she must have suffered too, fear, a constant companion. And yet here we were both survivors, in a new world.

'There was a camp next to the farm.' Roma continued. 'I saw a boy there and I would throw him apples every day.'

What an amazing coincidence that she had helped some other boy.

'What did he look like? I asked.'He was tall, skinny, and hungry. I must have seen him every day for six months.'

My heart was racing. I couldn't believe it. This couldn't be. 'Did he tell you one day not to come back because he was leaving Schlieben?'

Roma looked at me in amazement. 'Yes!'

'That was me!' I was ready to burst with joy and awe, flooded with emotions. I couldn't believe it! My angel.

'I'm not letting you go.' I said to Roma. And in the back of the car on that blind date, I proposed to her. I didn't want to wait.

'You're crazy!' she said. But she invited me to meet her parents for Shabbat dinner the following week.

There was so much I looked forward to learning about Roma, but the most important things I always knew: her steadfastness, her goodness. For many months, in the worst of circumstances, she had come to the fence and given me hope. Now that I'd found her again, I could never let her go.
That day, she said yes. And I kept my word. After nearly 50 years of marriage, two children and three grandchildren, I have never let her go.
-- Herman Rosenblat of Miami Beach, Florida ---

This story is being made into a movie called The Fence.

Monday, September 29, 2008

Burdens Lifted

On the home front while we wait for more news of Sweetpea we have been praying for my dear husbands mom. She had a tumor growing in her neck and today she underwent surgery. It was such a relief to hear that she made it through fine, is in a lot of pain now but that the surgeons were able to get the whole thing out. The prognosis is good and we are so grateful that she is in the recovery stage. That makes both of our mom's in for surgery in the past year. It makes us reflect on how much we love them and how much they have given to us during our lives. We are blessed to be loved by these great women, they are treasures to us and to our children.

Monday, September 22, 2008

Plans change, Plan B

Things have changed a bit in the last 2 weeks. It has been an emotional rollercoaster but it looks like we are not going to Singapore as planned in early Oct. to meet Sweetpea when she comes in from the Philippines. Her first family decided that they wanted to have her stay with them for a few days to get her tested for TB. They had visions of an international incident akin to that fellow who went to Europe with TB to get married and came back and is now held in isolation somewhere in Denver Colorado.

After talking it over with our lawyer he strongly suggested that it would be to our benefit to have them run some other tests and also provide her with some basic medical care before we fly all the way there. So right now the tests will be run on the 8th and we will get the results back on the 10th of Oct. If for some aberrant reason she does have active tuberculosis she will not be allowed to fly for the next 9 months anyway, and all the plans get scrubbed. She would need to be medically treated for those 9 months and then cleared of active TB before she would be allowed to board a plane.

The biggest question is what makes them think of this? We don't know. They have not had contact with her over the past 6 months in order to suspect that she is symptomatic. If they were told that she was symptomatic they are both doctors and would suspect active TB right away and not delay in getting her treatment, we hope. We only have our own speculations and those are not profitable to dwell on. We do know that God is the God of the universe and it is in him we trust.

So the plan as it is vaguely formed at the moment is that on the 7th she will return from the Philippines to her first family in Singapore. Her Filipina caretaker, Carmelita, will stay on with the family to care for her. She will get medical attention on the 8th and tests will be run. On the 10th they will get the test results and depending on the outcome we will hopefully be booking tickets to Singapore for the following week. That would put us in Singapore around the 18th of Oct we think. We don't know at this point what the game plan will be from there. We will have to keep you posted.

Sunday, September 21, 2008

Take me out to the Ball game


This evening we took the kids out to the ball game.....and we had a really nice time. I love it when sweet memories are made and you don't even have to try really hard!

The ball park was only half full and we were above homeplate. The older girls took their cute selves down to the first row seats which were entirely empty and got to watch an inning there and taste the dust from the batters box. It was our middle daughter's blessing to be that up close and personal.

The kids had a very rare treat of a ring pop supplied by some over zealous Sunday school teachers who shall remain anonymous but who we think are trying to win the prize for being voted "Coolest Parents Ever". They got to indulge their sweet tooth at the ball game as we wiled away inning after inning.

The evening ended with a firework display. Sitting there with my family watching the fireworks was like a special prize. I am so blessed. Blessed to have such wonderful kids. Blessed to have such a handsome and loving husband. Blessed to live in a country free to celebrate a Sunday evening ballgame with fireworks and a young girl singing "God Bless America".

We sauntered out of the ball field lingering over the last drifts of smoke from the fireworks and said a final farewell to our summer. What a fitting end. What a great memory.


Saturday, September 20, 2008

Asking for the simple things


We were blessed today in such a precious way that I wanted to share of God's faithfulness.

I was travelling home through a region not too familiar with me when I got inundated by local traffic coming out of a community fair. Not knowing much about the area I wanted to get out of the log jam and over to the highway in order to get home sooner. I saw a street that I thought would logically go through to the highway if I were to be able to turn left. Well, of course in the state we live in logic rarely is used in road planning so I ended up on a long dead end road. In hindsight if it had been the route I anticipated there should have been many more locals choosing "my" path of least resistance.

At the end of the road was a house with the remnants of a very large yard sale and out on the curb for trash was a variety of bikes of the smaller scale. I stopped and asked the man cleaning up if I could take a bike and was told to take as many as I would like. I looked and there was a 20" bike, purple and looking very good except for flat tires. I could only fit one in the car anyway and this 20 incher was exactly was I had been "shopping" for for about a year. I put it in my trunk and was about to leave when the man asked if he could help and he reloaded it so that it would completely fit in my trunk with the lid shut. What a gracious gift to me!

The bike was a complete blessing as my middle cutie has long, long legs and she is still riding around on a toddler 12" bike with her knees knocking the handlebars. It's rather clownish and she has been longsuffering in our search for another bike for her to ride. I was so blessed by God to see that he is taking care of our every need and some small desires too. She was thrilled to get it and now is impatient to have it fixed up so she can graduate to the world of big girl riding. God is so good to this mama's heart. Thank you Lord for your every kindness.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Mr. Beaver is the Lion safe?


Mr. Beaver is the Lion safe?

Safe, have you not heard anything Mrs. Beaver has said to you? Safe, who said anything about safe? He’s good, he’s king.

When we come to the vision God has for us, we ask, is it safe, does it make sense? But when God calls you to His vision, He calls you to something that transcends safety. He calls you to something that transcends common sense.

It is all about Jesus Christ. He will call to be a part of something bigger than ourselves. It is super-natural. If He does not intervene, we will not make it.
from Lori Salierno, September 17, 2008. Serving God With What You Have Focus on the Family Daily Program



How aptly this describes where we are at at the moment with the adoption. We are being made to reassess all of our basics again and put them before the Lord. We are praying and seeking God's face for wisdom, making sure that we are following the path that He has laid out for us......not wandering down our own. Please keep us tight in your prayers if you feel led, we are so grateful.

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Fabulous News

It is truly a miracle to see the lonely be placed in a family. Today we got to witness through the web 3 of our dear friends become a family by God's Providence and the miracle of adoption.
We met this little 11 year old girl last summer when she was here in the US having medical intervention not available in China. She was an orphan, and had waited all her life to be adopted. She had seen countless number of children around her leave the orphanage to go into forever families through adoption but no one ever chose her. She longed with all her heart just to have a Dad.
Last summer through the concerted efforts of some friends who began to champion her cause many people came to know about her. One special couple took it further and put their faith and hope on the line and started the paperwork to adopt her. They were an unlikely couple, being recent empty-nesters, and they would need TWO special variances from China to be approved.

On the other hand this special little girl was running out of time. When a child turns 13 in China adoption is closed. Only children 12 and younger are adoptable under the current system. Many people prayed and interceded for the trio involved. Then we heard that China approved the parents, and then they had to wait the entire summer for the Olympics to be done in order to travel to adopt her.

Today they are a family and we are rejoicing with tears and thanksgiving for the wonderful thing that God has done. We cannot wait for them to come home to greet them and know that we will be almost neighbors!

Saturday, September 6, 2008

The big PLAN - hoping and praying

What's the plan? you might be saying to yourself. How are you going to unite this child who is currently in the Philippines with you who are obviously no where near south east Asia? Good questions. This is what we are thinking at this point........... subject to airline strikes and natural disasters.

We are going to fly to Singapore, the sweet hubby, myself and our littlest in early Oct. Probably around Oct 4. That will give us enough time to get our sea legs under us in a new country before needing to be mentally sharp for meeting Sweetpea. The day before Sweetpea is due to arrive in Singapore from the Philippines we will meet with her original family and have them sign the legal paperwork giving us guardianship over her. We will also discuss how the transition from them to us will happen the following day and what she needs to hear them say in order for her to have the best chance at making that break from her original family. This will be a little tricky and we are still researching this facet.

Sweetpea is due to arrive into Singapore under the supervision of her Filapina caretaker on Oct. 7. We plan to go to the airport with the family and be there when she arrives so that we can observe the initial interaction between the child and the parents. We are hoping to see some response of attachment from the child at this reunion, that will be a great indicator of hope. It will also mean that the initial separating will be hard but hopeful. If there has been attachment then there is hope for other attachments, if there is no sign of attachment that could mean bigger issues.

After the airport we hope to travel back to the family home with Sweetpea and be able to have a discussion with her and all the adults involved of what is happening. My heart breaks at this point because I just cannot fathom how a 6 year old is going to comprehend that she has been set out of her original family, to be placed into another family, at what must seem like whim to her.

Hopefully after this introduction and meeting we will take Sweetpea back to the hotel with us and begin to get to know her, and her us. This is where we think the youngest's presence will play a considerable role. She will be a comfort to Sweetpea in knowing that she is not alone with strange adults. Our littlest will also serve as a great role model of how things are done in our family i.e. how we snuggle, how we share, how we eat, and how we are loved unconditionally. Also the fact that they are so close in age it will give them a head start in getting to know one another and work on getting along before we add the older 2 into the mix.

We will stay a few days in Singapore mostly staying close to the hotel, hopefully swimming and playing, napping and eating --- setting up some basic family parameters that will help Sweetpea find safety with us and understand our role as her "new parents". We did not want to "grab and go" and take a child we barely knew on a 26 hour plane ride home when we have not a clue how to comfort her or how to minister to her needs. We need a little bonding time first before we make the great leap home, even though all we will want to do is dash at that point.

A big deterrent to staying in Singapore is the cost. EVERYTHING is soooooooo expensive. There is no getting by on the cheap there. We have looked into all the places we know to get a good deal and there is nothing suitable. Part of the issue is that we need something that will give us suitable space to have 2 kids and also have rest when we can, because we know the stress of it all is going to be exhausting. We aren't kidding ourselves and thinking we can bunk out at a backpackers dive for a week with 2 kids, one going over the falls in an emotional barrel, they'll kick us out for sure!

SO it's a balancing act of staying long enough so that Sweepea's needs are met and we are good to make the long trip home and yet not too long that it breaks the bank. We think a week will be just right, a day or 2 give or take.

We just can't wait to get her home with us and to get back on our territory where we are firmly grounded. We know that's when the real work begins. Everything leading up to that point seems very fragile and tentative. I will love to be able to post that we are safely home.
  • Pray that as we make our plans we listen and follow God's leading concerning what is best for those involved.
  • Pray for the original parents, that their hearts would be open to the gospel.
  • Pray that no matter how emotional the process gets that we will present the gospel in love in everything we do and say. We want to minister to their broken hearts as well.
  • Pray that the Holy Spirit is preparing Sweetpea for this big change that is going to happen soon in her life.
  • Pray that we will find the right place to stay that perfectly fits all our needs and our desire to effectively minister to both of our daughters as we stay there.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

God's Sweet Gift

There are many things that I have given to the Lord as I have felt beyond my own means to meet the challenge set before me in bringing Sweetpea into our home. This afternoon one of those prayers, pleaded from the depths of my heart, was answered without my having to do more than lay it at my Lord's feet. I was so touched and deeply encouraged that God sees my heart, sees my need and meets me even before the true trial begins. What sweet rejoicing I had this evening, and as I shared it with my girlies they too were in awe of what God does and how His people respond to Him. God is good.

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

School Daze

Today we had a full, complete day of school and I am mentally exhausted. It was a good day and all 3 kids did well in balancing out their work vs. need to get help. We made a written schedule last week, complete with lunch menus and everyone was thrilled and skipping around with delight at starting school. I too like the new year routines of new books, new supplies, new schedules and the hope and promise of great things to happen in the year. Yet, as a jaded adult I know that disillusionment with the "thrill" is just around the corner in maybe Oct or Nov if we can slide past that far. That is when the daily grind becomes obedience and discipline for all of us.

Add into that equation the mental gymnastics I did today trying to see how I am going to fit our fourth daughter into this school house and still get everyone to stay on task when I am doing therapy with her. Bigger than that how are we going to float when all of them no longer want to toe the line and I am otherwise occupied with behavioral issues with any one of them but most likely our newest? On top of that is my great desire to do all this with a godly heart and with patience, kindness and righteousness....I'll get back to you on how that might be working out later.

Then the Lord gave me a few moments of time with Him and encouraged me greatly with these thoughts:

Do you not know? Have you not heard?
The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom.
He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.
Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall;
but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
Isaiah 40:28-31 (esv)

I am so mindful as we walk toward this adoption that God is leading the way and that I will be cared for by Him as much as this precious little one we seek to care for.

More to do this week as we go to meet with a possible specialist to see if they will take her on as a patient when she comes home, and then the wonderful fingerprinting for the federal clearances.

Please pray for us as we have begun to be burdened by the financial onus of this endeavor. We know that God has always taken care of this but looking those numbers in the face is a scary thing and shakes my faith a bit. We just don't have time to do any fundraising, it has to fall like pennies from heaven.


Saturday, August 30, 2008

Homestudy

God is sooooo faithful!

I can say that now with full conviction because the homestudy visit is over. For those of you who have gone thru this process you can probably understand quite easily.

Let me begin with how sovereign God is in this process. Everything is going so quickly. From getting in to see the lawyer in just a few days to needing to get the homestudy going so that it can be completed by the time we need to leave to go to Singapore in a month........zoom, pow! Adoption does NOT work like this!

When we called the agency that did our last homestudy and asked if we could have the same social worker come and do the update needed to start this adoption I was told that she is very busy, is about to go on vacation and then will start back to school so will be limiting her clients! Ugh! Yet God is delighting to surprise us as our dear friend who also uses the same social worker and is waiting to finalize the adoptions of her two sweeties just happened to have an appointment with our social worker for THIS Saturday. This same dear friend called me and said, "Take my appointment, it's okay I can wait, you can't". I was floored by that act of selfless love. The social worker too can't believe such an example of grace.

By the time we got word from the social worker that it was confirmed that she was coming on Saturday morning at 10 am it was Wednesday afternoon and we were already set to spend all of Thursday in New York City. I had such peace about it until Friday when the adrenaline kicked in as did the old fear of man and we cleaned the house preparing for an inspection from the white glove brigade. I wish I would have listened to the voice of God when he was telling me to chill about it.

The actual meeting went very well with all 3 girls in on the first half of the 2 and a half hour meeting. They got to express their concerns and hopes for bringing Sweetpea into our family and tell the social worker all about some of our preparations that we have made already. In the end she said she would approve us but was concerned that the amount of need that this child was bringing into our family might overwhelm the normal development of the rest of the children. She said she would be paying close attention to this throughout our journey together to the final adoption hearing. She was really encouraged that our church is such a supportive community and that we could be sustained in times of hardship by them. She couldn't have been more right about that!

Friday, August 29, 2008

Memories in motion





Here are the pictures of our time spent making the lovey bear for Sweetpea yesterday. I thought you would like to see some of the sweetness that was poured into the girls' preparation for their new sister.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Anniversaries and Memories

Today is the day many years ago that my sweet husband proposed to me under an enormous oak tree in the wine country of northern California. It was a day like no other and a delicious memory for the two of us. We celebrate it every year. This year we happened to celebrate it in New York City and the kids made it a special day for us, complete with enforced smooching.

While we were in NYC we also got to re-enact another great memory and pull it around full circle. When we were waiting to travel to adopt our youngest we, 4 at that time, went to Manhattan to get our Chinese visas in our passports. We made a sweet memory by stopping by the giant mega-store of Build a Bear to create a soft lovey for the sweetie we were waiting to meet. We made a bear which later became MoMei and is a much loved rascal having nightly escapades with our youngest. Our two olders remember that day very well and now to return and make a new lovey bear for Sweetpea was a delight to them. For our youngest it was her first time and quite the retail eye-openner!

We had such a nice time together making the bear and choosing an outfit. We really hope that this lovey will be as much a comfort to Sweetpea as the other bears are to her waiting sisters. She will come to us with nothing, perhaps only with the clothes on her back. We do not even know how tall she is or how much she weighs so buying clothes beforehand is futile. We want to lavish her with love but recognize that she will not be able to receive that right away because of what she has been through. Slowly and steadily we hope to win her heart and make her a true daughter of our family.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Met with the Attorney

Today we met with the adoption attorney. The great thing is that he has handled hundreds of disruptions and understands the unique situation they pose. He had done his homework and seemed to think that the special intrigue of this one was well within his scope, the others I had interviewed over the phone sounded entirely unsure about the legal entanglements.

He said that even though Sweetpea's family is currently residing in Singapore as American citizens he saw no reason that the adoption could not progress as a domestic adoption. He double checked everything and still it all seems good and can progress well. There is some question about the family not having the original birth certificate issued by China. This could pose a serious block to the adoption. I have to give this all over to God and trust Him.

The lawyer spoke so fast for the nearly 2 hours we were with him that I got writers cramp from trying to take notes. I kept having to interrupt him and say, going back to this point.....and again, back to this point......just to make sure that I had a clear understanding and was writing it down correctly.

He will next draw up a packet of legal papers for Sweetpea's family to sign giving us guardianship of her and legal rights for her medical treatment here in the US. We will have them sign and notarize these papers when we travel to Singapore in early October to meet her. Then they will also have the preliminary adoption paper work to fill out giving consent to adopt Sweetpea as well as a lot of other state mandated forms such as testifying that she is not Native American, and giving their medical background but this would only be applicable if they were biological parents to Sweetpea, which they are not.

When we return to the US with Sweetpea and give the lawyer all the signed paperwork he will then have 45 days to file with the court our petition with the intent to adopt her. They will then take up to 3 months to set the first hearing at which the parents have a right to appear but in this case the family will not choose to travel back from Singapore and will handle all the paperwork via FedEx. At that first hearing if all is found good then their parental rights will be severed.

Then another 6 months will be waited out with visits by the social worker and a final report made to our homestudy and the hearing for the finalization of her adoption will take place.

It is a much longer, more tedious road to adoption than we have travelled before. We have always arrived back on these here shores with the adoption finalized and only post placement reports back to China to worry about.

We are stepping out in faith. We feel like we are flying by the seat of our pants on this one. Nothing is so sure and yet we feel compelled by the Father heart of God for this orphan to reach out and create a place in our family for her forever. We pray we are not ahead of God in this endeavor and we cherish any prayers on our behalf pleaded before our gracious and loving Saviour.

"Do not take advantage of a widow or an orphan. If you
do and they cry out to me, I will certainly hear their cry."
Exodus 22:22-23

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Chosen!


After days of babysitting the email waiting to see the parent's email pop up it finally came when I was not looking!

We had given them our final final answer but with qualifiers that may cause them to not chose us. We wanted to be truthful upfront and not have them make a decision in our favor and then reveal that we had these conditions that we knew they would not see as favorable. One of which is that we want them to agree to remain in contact with us throughout her young life and until she becomes a young adult and can make decisions for herself about contact. We want there to be an avenue for her to dialogue with them about the loss and trauma of her first years and her time with them when that time comes for her to do that emotional work. That might not happen until she is an older teen and we might naturally not know where in the world they are or how to contact them by that time. So, we wanted them to make this commitment to her now. We know that they are not open to this, so it would be a condition that could tip the scales out of our favor. Yet, we have to do what is right for Sweetpea regardless.

To our surprise this was not to hold them back and they emailed today to say that they felt we were a stronger candidate to successfully attempt to adopt Sweetpea. They said that since we have already had experience and success with attachment bonding issues they felt we might be able to handle Sweetpea's behavioral and attachment issues the best. We know that it is through God's gracious mercy to us that we know anything and have done anything to help our daughters. We take no credit for how God has miraculously healed the hearts of our sweet girls. We just pray that we will be similar instruments in God's hands for Sweetpea as well.

We also know that they made the decision out of what was most expeditious for them as a couple and not what was perhaps best for the child. They have ceased making decisions for her best welfare long before. We just trust the Lord that the decision is made by God for the His glory, and we have nothing else to be concerned about.

So, honestly now, I feel a little twirly and a lot like throwing up! A friend of mine has already said that that is a fine way to feel...it makes me truly pregnant!

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Got the Documents!

We got the documents from the parents with very detailed information about Sweetpea. Here are some great new details we did not know before:

Sweetpea's name given to her in the orphanage in China was Jin JiaTong. Jin is the family name and given to her because she was found in the Jin area of the city. Jia means good and Tong means smooth, the caregivers wanted her to have a good and smooth life despite the hardships she might face. This was a sweet evidence of God's grace to her from the beginning.

One of the surprises that we need clarification on is that the medical from China says that she has 3 toes on each foot. We haven't heard anything about this from the parents, but it may be part of her developmental issues or her movement problems. We are going to find out about this.

Friday, August 8, 2008

Our own Olympic Event

Right in the middle of the Opening Ceremonies for the Olympics we get the call from Sweetpea's parents, the time difference didn't work in our favor. My sweet husband and I talked with the father for well over an hour. It was a good talk with a lot of new information exchanged and a lot of going over old information from a new perspective. This dad is a laid back Georgia boy and his slower manner of speaking and his relaxed tone helped adjust the tension of the conversion to a pleasant level. He gave his opinions and views candidly and said that he and his wife were very hurt by the great misunderstanding of those around them about their need to disrupt this adoption. He said they have lost their church, their friends and some family over this issue -- it has been emotionally charged and heart breaking. That let us know how hurt they feel and where they are coming from in the process. It helps to interpret some of the tone and language that the mother uses about the whole situation.

The conversation ended well and they promised to send a package of medical and adoption history to us next week so that we will have full disclosure. Then they want our final, final decision regarding adopting Sweetpea before they choose between the two possible families.

While it could make us a little crazy knowing that they could not choose us, it actually gives us a deep peace knowing that God is in full control over the process and that He will do what is His will for all our lives, without our trying to control it. I am good at resting in that place right now. I am wrestling with fear a little bit that we can't handle this so I am actually glad that we are not the only ones asking to adopt her. I am throwing myself on Christ and trusting him alone.

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Some simple facts

Sweetpea is a Chinese girl of 5 years old.

She was adopted almost 3 years ago by an American couple when she was 3 years of age. The couple also had 2 biological sons, one slightly older and one slightly younger than her. They had no understanding of dealing with a post institutionalized child nor where they ready to deal with their own issues.

Now they wish to disrupt their adoption and find another family for her. We have been praying for her and about this situation for the past several months. We are feeling that we might be the family that God is calling to adopt her and help her heal and lead a whole life.

Her birthday is Oct 1st.

We are praying hard every moment of every day that the Lord will lead us in what to do, how to obey. We do not want to go thru unnecessary heartache and pain. We just want to obey what we hear the Lord tell us to do. We are stepping out in that simple faith.

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Threw our hat in the ring

Today we threw our hat in the ring and after praying about this for months we contacted the parents of Sweetpea and requested that we be considered candidates to adopt her. They were very surprised to hear our plea and gave us more information and a little grace period to consider it once more before they made their final decision. They are also considering another family, a single mother with an 8 year old in Florida. We suggested that we have a phone conference over the weekend with all the parents so that the fathers could talk as well. So, it is with fear and trembling that we make the first steps to becoming Sweetpea's parents.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Turning the Fam 'o Five into 6 Across


We are officially announcing that we are pursuing the adoption of a little girl nicknamed Sweetpea. We hope to bring her into our family very soon and are working speedy-quick for this to happen......more details will follow.

We just wanted to get the word out and get a blog going to chronicle the often crazy, always amazing way God works in our lives.

May this story be a testiment of God's grace to all six of us and to His redeeming love in our lives.